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THE DANGER OF ANGER
One of the most distressing things our parents hear about is that their child has been scratched, bruised, pinched, or bitten in a fight. The idea of violence among toddlers is particularly horrific. We want peace, not mayhem. Everyone wants a peaceful life Ė peaceful on the outside and peaceful on the inside. A positive environment is crucial if we are determined to raise children as no-limit people. (See Wayne Dyerís book What Do You Really Want for Your Children? for an explanation of this term.) We cannot constantly expose them to the vagaries of anger and hostility and then expect them to cultivate an inner serenity. We have a choice in what kind of environment we provide for our children. If our children constantly view anger and fighting, they will develop into fighters. If we exercise no discipline over our own emotional reactions around children, we will see undisciplined children emerge.

We are confused about the conflicts in Iran, in Indonesia, and in Africa. Yet we boil when a salesclerk doesnít respond to us fast enough, someone cuts us off in traffic, or a waiter brings our meal without the sour cream. Our national family cries out for peace and shudders at the excessive amounts of anger and hatred in our country. It all begins in the smallest units, the marriage and the family, and then it goes to the next units, our workplace and school. If our children are raised on peace and serenity, they will become no-limit people who will live peaceful lives and help others do the same. Anger immobilizes us and saps our energy to do constructive work. Itís a choice we make. No excuses. If we want the world to change, we must start with ourselves.

The child who grows up with no-limit values places a high premium on solving problems. Itís a choice to deflate anger and antagonism. If a situation presents it-self where we find ourselves turning red, we can chose to step out of ourselves and deal with it as a challenge rather than as a frustration. Children can be taught the same technique. When they are frustrated about not hav-ing a toy or having to go to bed, listen to their opinion. It might not hurt a thing to go to bed with the toy car. Or maybe the tricycle can sit beside the bed until morning. The choice is ours. We can become emotional wrecks and keep a warring atmosphere in our environments, or we can accept that our little person is doing the best he can do and work out a creative solution for everyoneís peace of mind. To get ourselves out of immobilizing anger with the far greater peaceful, no-limit approach to our lives is worth the really hard work that it takes. Itís our choice. No excuses. The danger of anger is that it carries far too great a cost to our children.

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