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THE THRILL OF THE ARENA
A child slipped and cut his chin this week. Mom was terribly upset, but once the cut was referred to as a “warrior’s wound”, the child wanted to show every one. It is such a paradox that in this world when we are exposed to effort, error, rejection, hurt, and pain that we emerge with feelings of competence, strength, maturity, independence, personal power, and high self-esteem.

Through every child’s development, he faces many new experiences that offer an abundance of failures as well as successes. Because these events are initially unfamiliar and require new skills, the child may fear them. This fear is instinctive, meant to make us more alert and our muscles more responsive. With the adult’s instruction and encouragement, the child is able to confront the fear and penetrate the barrier it creates. For exa mple, when a child stands on a diving board for the first time, fear causes her heart to pound and freezes her feet to the board. But with the parent’s instruction to hold her nose and jump big and the security of knowing the parent is right there as a safety net, the child jumps. And then she comes bobbing up. She won! She met the dragon and she won. The fear is dissolved, and she understands the exhilaration of participating in life. So she runs around to jump again, and the parent is filled with pride, connectedness, and a little regret.

So how can I answer that mother who is concerned about a cut on a chin? Encourage your child to explore and to do. Let your baby crawl and feed himself. Encourage your toddler to dress herself. Allow your pre-schooler to decide whether or not to wear coat. (Feel free to insist that he takes his coat even if he doesn’t want to wear it.) Avoid negative labels for any person, including “shy”, “stupid”, or “cutie”. Use positive labels that she can be such as “brave”, “intelligent”, and “caring” liberally. Teach your child to think for himself, and be an example yourself. Do not create monsters to control your child, like the store clerk to make her behave at the market, the monster in the dark to keep him near you at night, or the dog that might bite. Encourage your child to take the more difficult road sometimes, and talk with him about how you stand up to an unruly neighbor or the obnoxious parent at soccer practice. Teach your child how to make the right decision for himself, and praise every positive move in the direction toward the values you know are right for your family. With every failure comes learning, and with every success comes exhilaration. Then our children will grow up living life fully and competently, giving everything that life demands of them.

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