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A couple of times a year our enrichment curriculum focuses on Ēhow we feelĒ. As a part of this curriculum we talk about all kinds of emotions. We put names to those emotions because by labeling a thing, we can begin to deal with it. Little children donít recognize feelings. They donít know what they are, and they donít know what to do with them. The same thing is true for problems. Many times children donít even know that they are having problems, much less what to do with them. They donít always realize that what is happening could be different and better. A problem is something that bothers you because you do not like what is happening. Here are some ideas.

In some cases what the child considers a problem is perhaps a home rule. For example: your room must be cleaned before you play. In this situation, the child needs to learn that the choice is to clean the room and then play, or not get to play. A problem may be that when he plays, the neighbor bothers him. So the room doesnít get cleaned, and you donít have a clue whatís going on. In this type of situation, you may wish to talk with your child about why the room cleaning is not happening and how you as the adult can help. Getting your child to talk all the way through the situation may take your utmost diplomacy. If your child is experiencing problems getting along with other people or being liked, first she needs to understand that not everyone likes us. Next she must also be sure that sheís doing her part in getting along with others. You must be a friend to have a friend. Sometimes we just have to stay apart in order to avoid the problem.

Youíll want to encourage your child to share with you about things that bother him. Heíll need to know what you expect him to tell you. Someone making threats, hitting, name calling, or taking or damaging his things are things you should know about. Working with your child to understand whatís really going on can be trying. Is your child a part of the problem? None of us likes to admit that some of whatís happening is our own fault. Most important is that your child knows that you stand with her in working through the situation.

Staff at the school can be an invaluable resource for you in developing a game plan. If itís a bullying situation, itís an important life experience to teach your child how to work through the problem instead of letting it continue or even letting it get to the point where your child begins to resort to violence. Youíll want to take special pains to teach your child not to give in to threats or teasing. Itís really important when your child gets old enough to resist taking drugs or shoplifting that she have well developed coping skills as well as a strong moral compass. Especially important is the part about talking with you, her most powerful advocate.

As you work on identifying and naming problems and then dealing with them, notice that dreams and goals work the same way. Can you verbalize these important parts of your life for yourself and for your family?