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These words seem to strike fear into the hearts of all but the most secure parent. In our heart of hearts, we know thatís what we want. We want our children to value themselves, and a part of that is independence. A dependent child who is discouraged from becoming independent by a smothering parent will develop habits of low self-esteem that can accompany and sabotage a child through his whole life.

But the nuts and bolts of encouraging our children to be independent can set even a super-parentís teeth on edge. The infant who tries to grab a spoon to feed herself, the toddler who struggles to get his pants on for himself, or the primary child who wants to cook dinner takes a lot of patience on the parentís part. In the Montessori classroom, the child is taught independence by choosing her own work, the same work for as long and as often as she likes. The early work is largely self-correcting, only fitting one way so that no adult has to tell her what sheís done wrong. Itís obvious, and she makes her own corrections. The child in the classroom is ďgiven a lessonĒ in how to do things. No child is expected to do anything without having first being instructed how to do it properly and with quality tools. If the child doesnít do it correctly, another lesson can be given at another time. The child is given lots of time to do the work. When youíre first learning, itís hard to do it well if youíre going fast. The child is encouraged to do as much of the work by himself as possible, and the encouragement acknowledges staying with the project, putting it away after-wards, getting most of the work accomplished, and various other totally positive reinforcements. If itís a long project, the child is given until the next day to finish. If itís a challenging social problem, like a bullying child is overwhelming a more compliant child, we give the compliant child words and actions to prevail in the situation. If itís cold, the child decides to wear a coat. If the child is thirsty, cups and water are available.

Itís an ultimate respect for the child as a person that she is able to do it herself. When our children have inner security, they have a sense of faith in themselves to be able to handle any circumstance, the wilingness to believe in themselves, to know that real security is knowledge, experience, and ability. And the child really can do it himself for the rest for his life.