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Day after day we watch our parents struggle to impose order with their children. The basic issue is that adults are the ones responsible for deciding the way things should be, and the child is the one who is being trained to fit into our society. Greystone House has used a simple little formula for a long time that works pretty well. Itís from Dr. Thomas Phelan and itís called 1Ė2Ė 3-Magic! Itís based on the principle that the adult is in charge, and itís best for the child when thatís true. It starts with a couple of things that seem impossible for most of us to do: exhibit no emotion and donít talk.

When dealing with kidsí problem behavior, it is helpful to put any problem into one of two categories before trying to deal with it. The reason is that the general strategies for handling each category are different. The two categories are:

1) START behavior, which are all the things you would like your kids to START doing, like brushing teeth, eating dinner, going to bed, and getting up in the morning.

2) STOP behavior, which are all the things you would like for your kids to STOP doing, like arguing, temper tantrums, screaming, and demanding.

In general, you will punish STOP behavior and reinforce START behavior. Since most of us know how to reinforce or reward (and we remember to do it), weíre going to talk about stopping behavior. The first rule is that you canít show any emotion when youíre disciplining. Our preschoolers simply donít know how to fit into society, and itís our job to teach them. We must be totally patient and totally consistent. A child canít function and we canít be rational when weíre frustrated and angry. Weíre wonít have any of these emotions when we enforce the behavior we expect early in the situation.

The second part of the method is to not talk. You say what you expect, you give a one- or two-word reminder and then you enforce. As your child gets older, you can sayí ďThatís 1Ē, ďThatís 2Ē, and finally ďThatís 3Ē, and the child is expected to remove himself to your familyís time-out place for 5 to 10 minutes. At the end of this time, the child may return to the family or class activities with no discussion on the adultís part. You simply carry on normal activities.

Itís that simple ó and that difficult. Youíll find yourself discussing and getting frustrated. Thatís when you go back to the basics and remember ó no emotion and no talk. It really works, and when it works, youíll find you have a lot more time for the fun stuff, like affection and stories and peace. When itís not working, youíll know youíre not doing it very well. Thatís when you talk with us.