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MINDFULNESS
Our lives are so full, and our society esteems busy-ness, multi-tasking, and achievement. In the melee, our little ones get left out. They’re so short we see over their heads, and their language skills aren’t real great, so we talk around them. Teenagers tell us (because their language skills are better) that the greatest gift parents can give is to know them. Their parents are the most important people in their lives, and teens want someone wise to share their fears, their joys, and their dreams. Parents began their parenting habits when their children were preschoolers. That’s when we learn to be mindful of our children. How to be mindful of a child? It’s the same as for an adult.

• Look at the person you’re talking with. Actions/movement represents at least 50 percent of the total communication process.

• Acknowledge the importance of the person you’re with. Concentrate without concern for your own ego, your agenda, or your need to dominate.

• Feedback what you understood from the interaction. With barely verbal children, expand on what they said or indicated, as in “Yes, the popsicle is cold. That’s because it’s frozen,” or “You’re really sleepy this morning and think maybe you don’t want to wake up yet.” With more verbal children, your feedback can encourage communication, as in “What is it you don’t like about spinach?” or “What if we take a walk before we start dinner?”

• Have no preconceptions. It takes little children a while to interpret what adults say, make a decision, and then respond. When we’re mindful of what’s going on over there, we’re more patient with the process.

We can learn to be mindful by focusing on whatever it is we’re doing at the moment. We think we’re being more efficient when we multi-task. Instead, we’re really neither here nor there. We’re not being effective at either task. This is especially true in relationships, and it’s critical with our children. They know that you’re not really paying attention, and it cuts straight into their souls. You’ll have time enough later at work, after bedtime, or when they’re grown. You can learn to calm your impatience by focusing on your breath in private moments. It’s a terrific mind discipline, and researchers are saying it’s great for everything from hypertension to relationships with co-workers. For now, practice being with your little one in this most magical time. It’ll open your world to wonder, delight, and just plain fun.

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